Did You Grow Up with a Problem Drinker? Alcoholism - Alateen and Al-Anon in Kelowna
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Al-Anon and Alateen is for families, relatives, and friends whose lives have been affected by someone else's drinking.
If somebody close to you, such as a family member, good friend, co-worker, or neighbor, has or has had a drinking problem, the following questions may help you determine if Al-Anon or Alateen is for you:
If you have answered "Yes" to any of these questions, Al-Anon or Alateen may help you. Find a meeting now.
Life with someone who drinks too much is often a chaotic and confusing experience, but the effects of such a relationship can linger long after the last drink is poured. For those close to a problem drinker—whether a family member, friend, co-worker, or neighbor—the impacts can shape their entire lives, often in ways they don’t even realize.
Do you constantly seek approval and affirmation? This question might strike a chord if you’ve ever felt like you had to earn love or validation. Growing up or living with a problem drinker can instill a deep need to prove yourself, to be good enough to make them stop drinking, or simply to get through each day without conflict.
Do you fear criticism? It’s common for those who have been close to a problem drinker to be hypersensitive to criticism. You may have learned to walk on eggshells, always trying to avoid setting off a negative reaction. Over time, this can lead to an overwhelming fear of being judged or rejected.
Do you overextend yourself? Many who have been affected by someone else’s drinking take on too much, feeling like they have to do it all to keep things together. You might be the one who holds the family together, who keeps everything running smoothly—even at the cost of your own well-being.
Do you still feel responsible for others, as you did for the problem drinker in your life? This sense of responsibility can be hard to shake, even when the drinking has stopped or the person is no longer in your life. You might find yourself constantly taking care of others, neglecting your own needs in the process.
Do you have trouble with intimate relationships? The emotional toll of living with a problem drinker often spills over into other areas of life, particularly relationships. Trust may be difficult to establish, and you might struggle with vulnerability and closeness, fearing the hurt you’ve known before.
If any of these questions resonate with you, it might be time to explore the support offered by Al-Anon or Alateen. These groups are designed for people like you—those whose lives have been touched by someone else’s drinking. They provide a safe space to talk about your experiences, to understand how deeply you’ve been affected, and to start the healing process.
The journey of recovery in Al-Anon is not just about the drinker—it’s about you. It’s about recognizing that you deserve peace, happiness, and fulfillment, regardless of someone else’s behavior. It’s about learning to care for yourself as much as you’ve cared for others.
"Never doubt that a small group of dedicated people can change one’s life; indeed, it’s the only thing that ever has." This powerful quote speaks to the heart of what Al-Anon and Alateen offer. In these small groups, you’ll find people who understand your pain, who’ve walked similar paths, and who can offer support and guidance as you rebuild your life.
If you’ve answered "Yes" to any of the questions above, consider reaching out to Al-Anon or Alateen. It could be the first step toward reclaiming your life, toward finding yourself again. You don’t have to navigate this journey alone—there’s a community ready to welcome you, to listen, and to help you find the peace and strength you deserve.
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